Bilal Abdul Kareem, a polygamous man who has three wives has told other tweeps why he still does the dishes.
In his explanation, he said people are unaware of the duties and complexity involved in holding the position of head of house in a polygamous household.
According to him, his capacity as the head of the family implies that he is in service to everyone, rather than just ordering them around.
He said that there is a division of labour; he washes the dishes while the women look after the children. Bilal published a picture of himself doing the dishes and added that he is imitating the Prophet Mohammed, who he claimed was serving his three queens.
He wrote; “Some people think 3 wives is all about sex & being the boss. Being the leader of a large family means that I’m in service to them. Just as Prophet Muhammad was in service to his family. If my 3 Queens can take care of the kids every day then I can wash some dishes sometimes too.”
A Twitter user @thasinS questioned his thought process and said he is giving the impression that washing plates or taking care of the kids is the sole duty of a woman.
He said; For starters, why do you think dishwashing or caring for your own children is the wife’s job? You seem to be portrayed as if you are doing her a favour when it is your equal responsibility as a father and husband.
In response, @BilalKareem said; “This is the way I see it: We have specific roles but we can help each other out when we can. For example, if there is no money or food in the house I’m not going to look at her and say, “It’s your fault!”, because it’s not. It would be my fault.”