Insecurity is a feeling of inadequacy (not being good enough) and uncertainty. It produces anxiety about your goals, relationships, and ability to handle certain situations. Everybody deals with insecurity from time to time. It can appear in all areas of life and come from a variety of causes.
This article will help you comprehend the repercussions of insecurities in relationships and how to handle them. Insecurities in relationships can have major consequences.
Relationship Insecurity Signs
Feeling insecure in a romantic relationship can result in negative actions and attitudes.
- Being afraid that your significant other could decide to end the relationship at any moment
- Doubting your partner’s commitment to you and being preoccupied with thoughts of infidelity.
- Having feelings of envy and resentment towards their other friends and family members.
- Not trusting your partner’s word and always needing confirmation of their claims.
- Checking up on your partner all the time when you’re not with them to find out where they are.
These actions can actually make your partner want to leave you.
- A bad relationship in the past.
People who have been in bad relationships where their partner didn’t trust them or was mean to them might carry those feelings into their new relationships.
People tend to do this when they don’t deal with their feelings and thoughts about these relationships on their own. Instead, they quickly move on to another person. These people often wrongly put their unsettled trauma or emotional issues on their new partner.
- A lack of confidence
People who don’t believe in themselves may feel insecure in their relationships because they don’t think they deserve their partner’s love or support.
Being bullied, teased, or abused by a people can make you feel like you are different or not good enough. These things can make you feel less confident and change how you feel about your current partner.
Insecurity is like a self-fulfilling prophecy because your fear of losing your partner can make you act defensively, which pushes them away.
- Mistreatment or Lack of Care
People who have been neglected or mistreated often tend to be insecure in their relationships because they have rarely had their needs met in a way that was good enough.
When they do find healthy, fulfilling relationships, it could make them afraid of losing them because they were never guaranteed or given for free in the past.
Consequences of Insecurity
A person’s mental health and their connection with their partner are two areas that Romanoff discusses below as ways in which insecurity manifests itself.
Results on Emotional Well-Being
Feeling unworthy or undeserving is at the heart of insecurity, which has negative effects on mental health. The way you interact with your significant other, as well as your acquaintances, coworkers, children, and relatives, will be impacted.
It’s possible that if you’re continually doubting your value, you’ll end up accepting bad treatment from others, which will just further cement the idea that you’re not worthwhile.
How it affects relationships
Your relationship is affected by insecurity because it creates an imbalance. You start to focus more on what your partner isn’t giving you and ask for reassurance or confirmation of your fears.
You stop seeing your partner as an equal and start seeing them as something you can use to calm your feelings of insecurity.
How to Handle things in a Relationship When You Feel Unwanted
Identify your triggers: Learn more about the things that make you feel insecure. Keep track of the things or situations that make you feel insecure so you can start to figure out what you need to work on.
Talk to your partner: Talk to them more openly about your fears, how they affect your relationship, and how you can start to work on them.
Express your emotions: Communicate your feelings to your partner without placing blame.
Use “I sometimes feel stressed because…” in place of “You stress me out because…”
Try to hear your spouse out with an open heart and mind so you may learn more about the world from their point of view.